How To Break The News: “Mom…. I’m a Blogger”

6 ways to break it to your friends and family that you've been hiding this little secret from them...

So you’ve decided its time to finally tell your family? That’s great! I really commend you on the brave decision to share not only your site, but your carefully created content with your loved ones. Admitting to your closest friends and family that you’re a blogger- and you’ve been a blogger for a while now- can be difficult. Here are a few tips about approaching the subject.

1. Post links on Facebook…… without a contextualizing comment.

This approach gently introduces your content to them without the anxiety of having to craft an intro. You put it out there and it’s their choice to read or not. If your site title is carefully chosen, they may not even know that it’s your work until they’re already a fan and clicking through your content.

2. Sit them down and tell them.

This approach is not for the timid. Calling your parents/siblings/lover to the living room, sitting them down in dramatic fashion, and breaking the news face-to-face is scary. Doing it in this way offers the chance to put it all out on the table: How long have you been at this? Why? What is your plan for monetizing? You would be wise to anticipate the big questions and prepare some intelligent replies.

3. Blindside them.

The beauty of this approach is that there really is no dramatic lead-up. You can drop the bomb at any time. My suggestion would be while they’re in the bathroom. Wait until the shower is on or they’re situated on the toilet…. then knock to ensure their attention… and blurt. They’ll take the time they need to process, probably check our your site, and then come to you to talk it out in their own time.

4. Start a rumor or leave your page open on their computer/phone/tablet.

This takes the burden off you, and puts it on them to ask you about the blog. They’ll have an opportunity to read, process, and approach when they feel comfortable.

5. Don’t.

You don’t have to tell them. Just live your life and if it comes up, then it comes up- and you’ll cross that bridge when you get to it. If you’re writing under your real name, they may just find you on their own. Or maybe they’ve known all along.

6. Truth sandwich.

The truth sandwich has been , in my personal experience, the most effective news delivery system. I carefully plan my timing so that it coincides with something great that has happened and lead with that. I throw the blog in the middle, and end with more good news. It should look a little something like this:

YOU: Dad, I got a new job!
–DAD: That’s great honey? When do you start?
YOU: I’m not sure yet. I hope I still have time to put into my blog!
–DAD: ………
YOU: And I finally decided to get a gym membership!

Start on a positive, end on a positive.

Note: there is also the open faced sandwich method: start with really bad news and then mention the blog. The bad news doesn’t have to be true, you just need to be able to put the blog news into perspective for them:

YOU: Mom, I think I hit someone with my car……………………………… just kidding I’m a blogger.

Be prepared for:

  1. The eye roll
  2. “How do you have time for that?”
  3. “How do you plan to monetize?”
  4. Grammatical critiques
  5. “What’s a blag?” from grandma
  6. “Ha! What… next you’re going to tell me you’re a ______!” statements

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Oh boy, I’m ridiculous lol. Sometimes telling people that you have a blog is met with a little push back and general disinterest. This can really suck when you’ve put a lot into your site and the people closest don’t want to keep up with it. I hear it gets more intense when you leave a “regular” job to blog full-time; so power to those ladies and gents who have to make THAT announcement. 


6 ways to break it to your friends and family that you've been hiding this little secret from them...

  • What responses have you received when you’ve “come out” as a blogger?
  • What are some other comical ideas for sharing scary news?
  • How do you handle your blog-haters? What about if they’re close loved ones?
More reading:  5 Ways I Manage a Job & a [Travel] Blog
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36 Comments

    • That’s awesome! I come from a family with fairly traditional careers, so my telling my aunts and uncles was met with a lot of questions. They’re largely supportive, but all very curious about monetizing haha

  1. Loved this! A good giggle for sure 🙂 When I told my mum that I wanted to write full time, she just rolled her eyes a little and asked how I was gonna pay for it! haha

    • Haha! Why is it that money is the first question that pops up?! My uncle’s first question wasn’t "Oh, what’s the topic?" or "What’s the name of your site?" — it was "What’s your plan to monetize?" lol silly relatives.

  2. Too funny! I started writing a more story-oriented blog years ago, and I told very few people that I was writing it. With the travel writing, it really did start as just a fun way to show people pics of places I was visiting, and then slowly morphed into something more. That gradual progression limited the eye-rolling and the full on confessional scenes. 🙂

    • Nice! I waited until I had 10+ posts and over 300 views per month (not a lot, but sounds ok to someone who doesn’t track site stats >< ), so the reaction wasn’t too negative. I find its more kinda judgy curiosity than anything.

  3. Haha funny article! I’ve been met with a lot of positive but that’s also because I’m not at it full time. I’ve been asked why people should read my blog over others, and it’s a good way to figure out the main reason I’m blogging. But that’s only after I inwardly groan!

  4. Hahaha I love this and it is so true! I try to keep my blogging life personal but it is hard sometimes 🙂

  5. Fun post! I am really new to blogging and so haven’t really come out and told many people, they have just seen it on Facebook, etc. But definitely some folks don’t take it seriously at this point; we’ll see how it all goes!

    • Yeah, this was actually the first post I put on my personal Facebook. I got a lot o, "Wait…. what?!" responses. I waited until I had enough content on the site to make it look like an actual website before I sent out my first email blast.

  6. I’m sharing this with my mama and papa back home. I broke to them the news that I don’t want to work for 9-5 desk job anymore and that I am a blogger. They were like "whats a blogger and where are you going this time?" hahaha

    • Bahaha great parental reaction! I’m not ready to leave the security of the job just yet, but I’m putting a lot of heart/soul into this site just so I can position myself to make that move down the line if I want to!

  7. oh wow, seriously! I love this post because I went and still go through this. My mom found out about my blog because I wrote a post on Pakistan and she found it somehow (relatives, I’m guessing). Now she likes every post which is weird.

    This is also bad because when I say I’m working she goes "you mean travel planning" or some snarky comment like that.
    Thanks for sharing this. Love when I can relate to a post.

    • That’s kinda cool that she’s liking the posts! I too get the occasional snarky comment from my extended-family (my parents and siblings are very supportive)– especially when I share the sentiment that I’m not happy in the typical 40-hr/wk setting. There’s a lot of, "…but why wouldn’t you want to be making $45,000/year and living in a condo?"

  8. Haha this read was entertaining! I think I told my parents we were blogging and then I had to explain to them what a blog was. I’m pretty sure they think it’s an easy hobby that takes as much time as it does to upload a photo to facebook! Anyways, thanks for the fun read!

  9. Interesting post. I guess the response I’ve been most surprised by, is just a complete lack of support for my blog from many friends and family. If I see a friend putting their heart and soul in to a project I try to give it my support. It’s always disappointing when it doesn’t work both ways. But to be fair, I think my Mum thinks it’s quite cool.

    • I agree. I have a friend who, when I was on a hiatus, asked me where my posts were– but he is by far the exception. I think where I fail in that department is actually asking for their support. Certain things in life just naturally garner support from loved ones, but blogging and travel are two that don’t seem to do that. Babies, weddings, promotions on the other hand…..

  10. I think being a blogger is similar perspective for many people as if telling them you wanna be an artist:) Personally i never had problems with friends or family accepting what I do, they always supported me and were happy for me. Although I know some people who think blogging is mixing a fog as our saying goes. 🙂

    • Had to Google that phrase haha. Yeah, support is mixed for sure. People tend to tell me that they think its cool…. but then they clearly have no desire to actually look at my content… which is fine. I know that there is a market out there for us!

  11. I know this could be quite a tricky affair, especially if you are going to do it full time, but if you are balancing it with another job, the issues may be different.

    • Yeah, I’m balancing with a job. I’ve gotten a lot of curiosity related to monetizing the site and why I would bother if its not going to make me any money. So for me, it wasn’t the telling that was hard– but rather the explaining.

  12. I can appreciate your comments. There is just so much that goes into travel writing and most people will never understand what we do. At times it frustrates me, but mostly I don’t care as I don’t need to prove myself to anyone.

    • Exactly! I definitely wanted to highlight the absurdity of having to handle telling people. It’s met with much stranger reactions than more traditional "big news" like babies, weddings, promotions, and the like.

  13. I feel like people worry too much about others reactions and lose precious time. Im a travel blogger from Europe and Ive never considered &quot;coming out&quot; as a blogger to my family. They know I blog, but we never have to sit down and talk about it. Its your decision and it is putting your life at risk or somebody elses.
    It
    s true that a lot of people dont understand our lifestyle or what are we doing and your points are on spot (love the blindside them point haha), but I still feel it shouldnt matter so much…

    • Yeah, I agree- it doesn’t actually matter. This particular article was born because I had a particularly strange reaction when I told someone a few weeks ago -and- my sister is an extremely talented satire writer…. so I wanted to try something satirical and weird lol. I’m not super concerned about reactions because we travel bloggers (and all bloggers) have a specific market of people who want and need our content, and loved ones might not fall into that category.

  14. Omg haha your #5 from grandma comment!! So true haha!

    My parents kind of found out straight away after my very first post -.- I told my sister to like my Facebook page and apparently they saw her liking it and found out about that way.

  15. Haha what a fun post! I actually broke the news to my parents by posting on Facebook and both of them were very supportive and actually are two of my biggest fans. They love sharing my posts! 😀

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